It is something I've been wrestling so hard with. Am I here trying to please other people or God? Am I basing my actions and thoughts off of what other people say - Christian or not? WHO'S STANDARDS AM I LIVING BY???!!!
It's a tough call to make sometimes and most of the time it may come down to making a personal decision. "How much can I take?" may be the right question to ask. That isn't to say "How close can I get to the edge before falling off?" But I am saying certain people can watch certain movies without it causing them to sin as opposed to other people. I believe that. (see 1 Corinthians 8 which seems to say that certain people struggled with eating meat and others didn't). Especially when it comes to differences between males and females and what we struggle with as different sexes.
But do we like making "personal decisions" because we're afraid to confront other people about their decisions regarding movies, computer choices, or even relationships. I don't think we should confront non-believers because Proverbs clearly says that that's a bad idea on several occasions, most notably in Proverbs 15:12: "A scoffer does not like to be reproved....."
Solomon makes it clear that trying to correct a fool or scoffer will never work because they don't want that. However, it is also our duty as Christians, I believe, to "reprove, rebuke, and exhort" our fellow comrades in the faith (2 Timothy 4:2). In fact, I would go so far as to say that we are doing a disservice to our fellow brethren when we fail to confront them about sin patterns we see in their lives.
So this all seems to lead (in my mind anyway) back to who we're basing our standards off of. I know for me I love to base my decisions off of what another believer does. So is it my fault or there's for my sin that they may have caused me to do based on their actions? I think it's a little bit of both because they're still sinning but it's mostly mine. Why do we look at others and seem to convince ourselves that they're perfect and should do as they do? They're as evil, wicked, and depraved as I!! We both sin, we both fall short, and we both look to each other for standards!
This may seem to be a confusing post to some but all I'm trying to say through this is let's look to true Perfection, perfect Righteousness, and the Spotless Lamb of God for our standards. Jesus did everything perfectly. I'd rather listen to His advice regarding how to live than any man. So let's help one another in this war. It's just another battle in this race to the finish. Another battle already defeated by Christ on the cross. Let's look to the Ultimate Conqueror and help others do the same.
Thanks for listening. Good night.